We all are 100% responsible for the choices we make in our life. We can’t help our circumstances but what we can help is the choices we make and how we react to our circumstances. When we make a choice to design the life we want instead of letting life just happen, we take control and go after things that are important to us. We set out to reach our goals, learn new skills, recognize opportunities and let go of our fears and negative thoughts that hold us back. Here are some reasons you should consider when designing the life you really want.
Identify your passions and really want makes your soul sing
Life is better when there is flow. When you feel like you are walking against the current, you are not in flow. When we recognize and capitalize on our strengths and gifts, focus on what brings you joy and energizes your spirit, you will feel more alive. Designing a life that brings you joy starts with an honest assessment of your talents, strengths and personality. It is important to remember that designing your life is a lifelong process. Your destination will change as you make, achieve and modify your goals. As we age, our values shift so designing your life will be a lifelong pursuit.
Learn to see the blessing of mistakes
Mistakes are a blessing in disguise. Learn to see your mistakes, mistakes of any magnitude, as learning opportunities. When you design your own life, you learn that all the missteps and obstacles that you face in life are not setbacks or failures. They are, instead, opportunities to learn and grow. Being happy in life and achieving your goals is a process. It doesn’t all happen at once, and you don’t know everything you need to know right now to make it all come true in the future.
You have to learn, and learning is a process of trial and error, of making and learning from mistakes. Designing your life allows you the freedom to set your sights on a goal that makes you happy and be at peace with the process of learning and evolving that must happen in order for you to achieve that dream.
Find a fulfilling career and then find a new one
This one is truly meaningful to me. A few months ago I read a post shared through facebook, it was something along the lines of “the person you were at 22 doesn’t get to determine what you do for the rest of your life.” That really struck a cord with me. Designing your own life means you don’t have to be stuck in your current job and that you can reach for new aspirations at any point in your existence. Career wise, I have taught, helped start an international baccalaureate school, designed curriculum for primary school teachers, ran an educational conference among other things. I have been itching for a change and after reading that quote it was enough motivation for me to dive into creative studies at SUNY Buffalo and pursue a new career at life coaching.
I allowed myself to dream and when time was right I made the changes. You see, the design process teaches you to imagine many different futures, all of which could make you happy, and to understand that finding work that energizes you and brings you joy and passion shouldn’t be a lofty goal that is unachievable.
Designing your life means you pick the one job that fulfills you today, and when that stops being your passion, you know you have the skills and mindset to find the next great opportunity. I am excited on this new journey of life coaching and helping women to transition into different stages of their life. Just like I did.
Learn to make decisions, unmake decisions and just go with the flow
Designing your life teaches you how to assess, make evaluations, envision multiple outcomes, and select among many different choices. These are all essential life skills when it comes to not only designing your life but also making tough decisions along the way. Once you feel confident that your design process works and is bringing you happiness, you’ll start to see many ways these skills are transferable to all the decision-making points in your life.
Imagine multiple futures for yourself, then decide which to pursue.
Life design is a process that involves choices and options. When you design the life you really want, you take the time to imagine multiple futures and varied pathways. You see that several different options could bring you joy, and you are reminded that there is not one right future or path for you. Knowing this is freeing, allowing you to change directions in the future or start again when you find your passion and joy waning.