We all have so many excuses, don’t we? I can’t help but repeat what has been said a million times but you can’t help anyone if you don’t help yourself first. Just like the overused airplane cabin example, put your mask on first then your child’s mask. Why? Because if you don’t prioritize yourself and put it on yourself first you can’t save anyone else because you will faint! So yes, my dears, let’s talk about why we are not taking care, and yes, this might sting a bit.
Maybe you really don’t know that you have let yourself go or maybe you never prioritized yourself to begin with so you really don’t know what you don’t know. Sometimes our family members and friends will let us know that we seem to not take care of ourselves. Another form of “cluelessness” is setting goals for ourselves such as losing weight but then not research and learn the changes we need to make to make it a reality. In this day in age, we can’t be clueless. We have so much information literally at our fingertips. With so many resources all you need to do is research and use your critical thinking skills to create a plan that will prioritize yourself to reach your goals.
Let’s say you are a mom, I want to talk about mom’s because they love to use this excuse. “I can’t XYZ because little Johnny needs to do __ and go __ so I have no time/money/energy.” You might also use this excuse if you are taking care of a sick family or friend member. It is just an excuse for “Not now, the time isn’t right because first I need to take care of __.” Yeah, no. Stop it. Either you need to enlist some help or you need to take a careful look at your schedule and make yourself a priority.
You want to level up and live your best life but it is too much work and you don’t want to put the effort it. That is fine – just don’t complain! If you find yourself wanting to break the lazy trap try to start small. Everyone wants to get up and start running but if you take it slow and steady you are more likely to stick to your ideal life plan. Discipline is like a muscle you have to use it to develop it.
If you are really that busy then you need to rethink how you live your life. Maybe learn to say no. Once you have decided on your values and set your goals, you can decide on which projects, activities and tasks to take on. If it doesn’t align with your long term vision and mission, get rid of it!
When you are overwhelmed it always come down to confusion. You don’t know which way is up or down, left or right. You need to sort that all out. The best way to do this is just do a quick brain dump and get all the mumbo jumbo out of your head. Get it all out. Then take a look at it and assign things to your to-do list. If it can be done within 5 minutes do it now. I really recommend the book Getting Things Done for anyone stuck in overwhelm. I like to go through my quick list of items to start doing things that make me feel like I am getting my act together.